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Halakhah for Pirkei Avot 1:12

הִלֵּל וְשַׁמַּאי קִבְּלוּ מֵהֶם. הִלֵּל אוֹמֵר, הֱוֵי מִתַּלְמִידָיו שֶׁל אַהֲרֹן, אוֹהֵב שָׁלוֹם וְרוֹדֵף שָׁלוֹם, אוֹהֵב אֶת הַבְּרִיּוֹת וּמְקָרְבָן לַתּוֹרָה:

Hillel and Shammai received it from them. Hillel says: Be of the disciples of Aaron, loving peace and pursuing peace, loving men and drawing them close to Torah. [They explained in Avoth d' R. Nathan how Aaron loved peace. When he saw two men quarreling, he would go to each one without the knowledge of the other and say to him: "Look at your friend. See how he regrets what he has done and how he smites himself for having sinned against you. He asked me to come to you and beg you to forgive him." Afterwards, when they met, they would kiss each other. And how would he draw men close to Torah? When he knew a man to have transgressed, he would befriend him and look kindly upon him — whereupon the other would think, in shame: "If that tzaddik knew of my evil deeds, how he would distance himself from me!" As a result, he would repent. This is the testimony of the prophet (Malachi 2:6): "In peace and justness did he (Aaron) walk with Me, and many did he turn from sin."]

Arukh HaShulchan

He also writes there in Law 7: "A Talmid Chacham shouldn't shout when he is talking; he shouldn't raise his voice, but rather speak softly with all the creations (i.e. humans). And when he speaks softly, he should not speak from too far a distance lest he sound haughty. Also, he should precede his friend in greeting. And judge every person with the benefit of the doubt. He should mention his friend's praises and never his friends faults. 'Love peace and chase peace.' (Avot 1:12). If he sees that his words will be helpful and heard — he should speak. Otherwise — he should keep silent... And he should not speak except with wisdom and kindness etc. And he should not converse with a woman in the market, even if she is his wife or his sister or his daughter." And all the more so he should not become accustomed to swears and oaths. Also, he shouldn't eat his meals in a lot of places. And he should distance himself from settlements of fools and from people who are not respectable.
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